Master Kenobi, compassion is not an emotion, but it leads to emotions. Feelings of goodwill, if you understand my meaning. It should not be about duty, helping others, it should be about love. Love for life, and love for retaining the sacrosanctness of life. Being ALIVE is a glorious gift, the gift of the Force.

Attaching yourself to others with love, platonic and romantic, is not wrong. It will not lead you down any dark paths. It will, in essence, free you from your current emotional trouble. You are wound tightly, and if you will but open yourself there will be no emotion, you will be at peace.